Friday, June 26, 2015

Yoga – for discussion at our Shabbaton




I’m pretty sure that few people attending a yoga class realize the long history it has or can list the paths to enlightenment that you’re supposed to follow. I started practicing yoga right after college (many years ago) and have pursued those postures ever since.

There are some features of yoga that are similar to kabbalah. Hindu, from which Yoga is derived, originated in India over 5,000 years ago and was handed down orally using one of the oldest languages, Sanskrit. Judaism, from which Kabbalah is derived, originated from the Middle East over 5,000 years ago. Kaballah is based on the Zohar, which is commentary on the Torah (handed down orally) using another ancient language, Hebrew.



Yoga has 36 essential building blocks of creation (tattvas) and seven wheels of energy (chakras = reality existing in man and the universe). Kaballah has 32 paths of wisdom (netivot hohma) which correlate to ten attributes (sephirot = fundamental components of all that exists). They both traverse from the highly mystical down to the physical. Both movements transcend cultural and religious boundaries and are a guide toward spirituality. 


The paths of enlightenment, or ‘Yoga Sutras,’ describe an eight-limbed approach to a more meaningful life: 1) Ethical: do no harm, be truthful, don’t steal, self-restraint and don’t crave. 2) Attitude: cleanliness, modesty, keep healthy, self-inquiry and surrender to God. 3) Physical: disciplined practice of postures (asanas). 4) Breath: move energy (prana) within us. 5) Withdrawal of senses and looking inside ourselves. 6) Concentrate the mind, direct energy and focus. 7) Meditate and contemplate, quiet and still the mind. 8) Enlightenment: peace that passes all understanding.


That is all very esoteric and is just a background to our discussion. When I talk about ‘Yoga,’ I’m primarily talking about doing yoga postures in a class setting. Often this class will include balance, breathing and meditative exercises as well. While I was in a yoga class earlier this month, I started thinking about the process of stretching and how it relates to accomplishing pretty much anything we do in our lives.

First, you have to want to stretch. You have to want to attain a goal. Much of the hurdle we need to overcome resides right inside our heads. If someone says, “I can’t,” it pretty much means, “I don’t want to.” Speaking for myself… I’m pretty sure that I can’t climb to the top of Mt. Everest. I have climbed mountains in Nevada and became physically sick. The climb up to Mt. Charleston (13,000 ft. above sea level) was grueling and I would often complain the whole way up. There were times, however, that I enjoyed the experience, I fared much better and yearned to see the top. (When you live with Jay near the mountains, you climb them!) I’ve found that I need to be in optimal health when I climb. I need to pace myself and I need to be in a good mental state. In other words, I have to want to be there.

Second, you need to go through the motions and practice, practice, practice; there are no short-cuts. Whether it’s learning a language, taking up a new sport, or playing a musical instrument – none of it comes without our time and effort. As anyone that’s learned to ride a bike realizes, the ability was always there; we just had to go through the process to convince ourselves that it could be done. Woody Allen is credited with saying, “Eighty percent of success is just showing up,” which is so true. Leading a Jewish life can seem overwhelming; but, if you learn the Mitzvot and then start to incorporate them into your life, the prospect seems less demanding. Go through the motions… say a blessing over the food you eat, treat others as you want to be treated and say Kaddish for lost relatives. Before you know it, you’re leading a Jewish life. When you follow a new recipe, you just start with step one and work your way through. When you only look at the immediate task, the overall mission doesn’t seem so overwhelming. Once you get the process down, you’ll want to become proficient at what you’re doing. After making a year’s worth of challah, chances are you won’t need to follow that recipe any more. You’ll actually start adapting the recipe to suit your own personal needs and tastes. You’ll start teaching others how to do it.

Third, there comes that instant, when mind and body are synchronized, when it no longer takes immense effort and actually becomes a task we look forward to. This is the Zen moment we all strive for, the moment our focus is intent on what we are doing, the moment we are able to drop our own illusions and start to see things without the distortion created by our thoughts, the moment when we know it can be done and are able to achieve focused results.

I started yoga at a low point in my life. I had graduated college and couldn’t find a decent job. I moved back home and was living in my parents basement. It was during a recession and I had applied for many jobs, which included many interviews, many resumes and many rejections. It sounds horrible, but looking back, I find that those moments in my life, the quiet contemplative ones, were often the most productive. I need those moments – like a breath during yoga class – a chance to focus on what is really important. We take our breath for granted, but it is essential to everything else we do. While I felt lonely, I also had more time for myself than I’ve had any time since. I’d found an inspirational yoga book on sale and decided to give it a try. I’m not sure what possessed me, other than I liked what I read and as I delved further I found that it spoke to me physically… my body liked to stretch.



For the longest time during my practice I was unable to do headstands. This really irritated me at times. I kept struggling with it. To build up the proper muscles, you do the pose without raising your legs. Then you do it against a wall to keep you from falling over and to teach you to be vertical. Eventually I could raise my legs without falling over! Just like riding a bike, after I realized I could do it, I was then able to do a headstand on my own every time I tried!

So, whatever you want to accomplish, remember these steps… 1) you need a desire to attain a goal, 2) gain knowledge through practice and finally 3) achieve results with focused attention. Let’s do it together!

Shabbat Shalom,
Terri =]

Thursday, June 18, 2015

Part of a Whole




I started thinking… First, why do we belong to Ohev? Second, why do we belong to Sisterhood? Third, what do we, as the Sisterhood board, do to answer those needs?

On a website (www.mishpacha.org ) for those not involved in a Jewish community (it’s a virtual community) they list reasons to be involved:

  1. You have moved to a new neighborhood.
  2. You are away from home for the first time.
  3. You are looking for a mate.
  4. You are about to be married.
  5. You have just gotten married.
  6. You have a new baby.
  7. You are on a three month maternity leave.
  8. You have decided to be a stay at home Mom or Dad .
  9. You need Day Care.
  10. Your child has special needs.
  11. You have kids needing to be educated Jewishly.
  12. You need to find a good summer camp.
  13. Your body is falling apart.
  14. You can’t seem to get it together.
  15. You are going through a divorce.
  16. You are dealing with yours, mine and ours.
  17. You need help caring for an elderly parent.
  18. You have lost your job.
  19. You have just lost a parent, child or spouse.
  20. You are newly retired.
  21. You have become a grandparent.
  22. You are dealing with illness.
  23. You have no one to share the holidays with.
  24. You have a need to discuss the mysteries of the universe.
  25. You have unmet spiritual needs.
  26. You are lonely.
  27. You want to learn to read, write and speak an ancient foreign language.
  28. You have wanderlust.
  29. You need an interest free loan.
  30. You need a kosher corned beef sandwich on rye with mustard.

Would you, seriously, want to belong to this community? Predominantly, what I notice is that this organization should revolve around “YOU!”

If you are already in a community of people, you could benefit from their knowledge and understanding in a time of need; but, joining an organization just to get needs fulfilled is not an effective way to handle life crisis. 

Okay, so if we’re not at Ohev to solve ours (or others) personal problems, what are we at Ohev for? What it boils down to, for me, is the need to share… share our personal stories, share events, share food, share traditions, share accomplishments, share a prayer service, etc.

It is not always natural to share. Children need to learn to get beyond the stage where everything is “mine!” 

If you look up the definition of share: 1) A part or portion belonging to, distributed to, contributed by, or owed by a person or group. 2) To participate in, use, enjoy, or experience jointly or in turns. 3) To relate (a secret or experience, for example) to another or others.

In any case, by sharing you acknowledge that you’re merely part of a whole. It is most definitely NOT about you. 

As a Sisterhood, we’re providing an opportunity for women to share in common goals. We’ve outlined those goals in our mission statement and in our by-laws, sometimes involving discussions over the merit of individual words that we can all approve of. 

Now that we have all agreed to share and play nice, we set up opportunities… opportunities to share ideas on the Sisterhood board, opportunities to share time planning and making a meal, opportunities to gather together to learn about a topic of interest.

It’s that time of year, a time to plan what we’re going to share for the coming year. The minutia of details is not what’s important. What is important is that we’ll be doing this together.

Terri =]

Tuesday, June 2, 2015

Getting Our Ducks in a Row

Sisterhood Kick-off 2015-2016



Dear ladies of the board, I’m trying to get all of our ducks in a row.

A reminder of our mission:
The Purpose of Sisterhood shall be to promote the welfare of Congregation Ohev Sholom, support the religious education of our children, and create a caring community of women devoted to the promotion of Jewish identity, education and continuity.

I have mapped out meeting dates for the upcoming year(all Thursdays at 7 PM).
July 9
August 13
September 10
October 8
November 12
December 10
January 14
February 11
March 10
April 14
May – Yom HaAtzmaut 2016 begins in the evening of Wednesday, May 11 and ends in the evening of Thursday, May 12. The community celebration is not decided yet. We’ll determine this date later in the year
We can decide on locations at our July meeting at my house. Anyone that wants to come early for a swim is welcome!

In lieu of a meeting in June, I’d like to meet with each member of the executive board this month. I've uploaded all of the Board Member responsibilities onto “Basecamp” www.basecamp.com/... you should have received an email. I will be using the blog and Basecamp for most of my information; so, let me know if you are having trouble with either. Look the material over and let me know if you have any questions.

My goals, aside from our mission, are to:
Encourage new women and younger women to get involved
Plan and offer events that are not too taxing on the those involved
Have fun

The urgent goal is for Programming and Fundraising to finalizing their ideas for next year’s programs so Barb can work on flyers. If you have any thoughts or ideas, please share!

Please contact me to schedule a meeting. I work at the JCC, so meetings here during the day are great for me, if you’re able; if not, we’ll work out another time.

Shalom,
Terri =]